Yeah. You read that right. ”Saturday Night Live Korea’s Adoption Sketch: No Need for an Apology" is the title of the latest post from our old chum Pissy Clissy No Co.
Now…I don’t have time for a response today…but I think that it’s worth sharing what he wrote before I get around to…
thanks to @burndogturns for tipping me off to this asshole who apparently thinks that SNL didn’t need to apologize:
So, with this in mind, I am going to defend those at Saturday Night Live Korea for their little comedy sketch. Not so much because I think it is really funny or a valid representation of adoptees, but because I am pretty sure I don’t know enough and don’t care enough to be outraged about it, and I get a little tired of misdirected and phony outrage.
read: i am going to defend this thing that i can’t possibly understand (nor do i even think is that valuable in the name of “comedy,” which is what i’m defending), but because “i don’ t know enough and don’t care enough to be outraged by it” - and if i’m too ignorant or indifferent to be outraged about it that means 1) no one else should be outraged and 2) my opinion about about it it still valuable.
For instance, I have heard that the skit in question on SNL is actually making fun of a specific TV program that used to run in Korea and Korean dramas where they used the subject of adoption (quite possibly many times) and airport meetings of adoptees and their real parents as a subject for melodramatic shows of emotion (cue the tears and piano music). Most foreigners living in Korea would not have known this and probably most adoptees - who had not spent much time in Korea - wouldn’t have known this either.
ummmmmm, i can assure that MOST adoptees know about these shows because they are basically one of the FEW ways we even have a CHANCE to find our families and so we all have to swallow our fucking pride and go on them, already hating feeling infantilized by the whole thing. if you think the show successfully mocked the way those shows use adoptees, and wasn’t mocking adoptees - then you do not understand korean well. don’t patronize us and act like we’re offended because we didn’t understand. also, even koreans (who are not the only ones who would’ve picked up on the cultural reference to those shows - again, adoptees know, thank you) were severely offended. but maybe you wouldn’t know that unless you can actually access korean media and SNS.
…outrage gets magnified as it’s spread around social media and it becomes very difficult to take a step back and see that it isn’t really that outrageous. Much graver misfortunes are made light of in comedy all the time.
again, you don’t get to tell people the people who are being mocked whether or not something is offensive. and once again, two (or two hundred) wrongs don’t make a right. just because other “graver” things are mocked, doesn’t make them all ok. it makes them all wrong.
The point is that there are many unfortunate situations we will never truly understand, many that are much worse than the subject of adoption. Intelligent people can see comedy is comedy and making light of hardships is sometimes a necessary part of life and this in no way detracts from our ability to empathise with real people embroiled in really heart-achingly sad and difficult situations.
again, you don’t get to decide what situations are worse than the subject of adoption or birth family search. unless you have actually been adopted or embarked on a birth family search. you acknowledge you can’t understand these situations but somehow you still think you can assign which ones are worse and which are not worth getting outraged about?
In summary then, some might say I am getting outraged over people getting outraged, but no, not really. I am just tired of them making life less fun for us all and sitting on top of their throne of moral superiority and not admitting that a huge reason people get upset about stupid things like this is to help inflate their already sizable egos and make themselves feel important or special.
I am not innocent in this regard either, to write a blog in the style of this one, you have to have a bit of an ego, and I am sure my ego does leak into my blogs from time to time, but at least I don’t require a sense of humour transplant.
read: i suspect that some people are using this to inflate their own egos and moral superiority. i might also be an egotistical asshole, but at least i’m an egotistical asshole with a sense of humor!”
As for the adoptees themselves who were offended by it, of course they can take offense to it and they can voice their feelings, but I think they need not, and in my opinion I think it is pretty lame. There are a million hardships we will never fully understand that people suffer from and to erase every one of these situations from comedy is not only impossible, but would make the world a very boring place indeed. Somethings are truly damaging or irresponsible - like using a blackface gag in a Sunday afternoon family comedy show - but do we really think any harm will come, any rights trampled upon, or any prejudices enhanced by SNL Korea’s mildly controversial sketch involving the issue of adoption? Surely not. This has nothing to do with people demanding censorship, by the way, this is simply me reacting to the outrage produced. People are totally within their rights to voice their outrage, as I am within my rights to say it’s stupid.
read: adoptees can be offended, but i deem them lame for voicing their anger and hurt over the dominant and degrading discourse about adoptees. i don’t think the way that adoptees have been separated by their families, language, cultural, and identities are “truly damaging.” why? because i said so. and who am i? the random white guy who knows the universal truth of who has the right to get offended (but of course, i’ve already acknowledged multiple times that i don’t really know or care about it). and even though i so generously acknowledge their right to complain, i think they’re stupid. and my opinion (on a subject that i don’t know anything about) is valuable, of course.
When I told Dr. Otto Neuratli of the Museum of Vienna , that Beethoven was of Negro ancestry he not only confirmed it but showed me Beethoven’s genealogy. He also mentioned Goethe, Germany’s most famous writer, as being of that stock. Rocker also names Goethe and Martin Luther, along with Beethoven, as among those who lacked almost completely the external marks of the Nordic race. (Nationalism and Culture, pp. 319, 1937.) Some who knew Beethoven bear this out.Fanny del Rio, who was in love with him, for instance. In her book. “Ah Unrequited Love,” dedicated to Queen Victoria, she says “his flat, broad nose, ra’her wide mouth … swarthy complexion, gave him a strong resemblance to a mulatto.”His life-mask in the Beethoven House in Bonn (very, very rarely shown in America), shows a very flat nose, wide mouth with full lips and other Negroid features. It is reproduced - in “Sex and Race,” Vol. 3. The New York Times, July 1, 1940, also cites Brunold Springer of Beethoven’s Negro strain in an article, “Negroid Blood In Hitler’s Aryans.”